I've posted variations on this advice so often that I've decided to write it once where I can refer to it easily.
Many new cat owners/rescuers ask: What do I do with my cat who won't come out from under the bed?
Here's what I have found works.
Gather your supplies:
- A large newspaper (I prefer The Washington Post, but whatever you prefer-- something with multiple sections with many pages in each section)
- A pen or pencil
- A snack you can share with the cat (cheese is my go-to)
Go to the room where the cat is hiding and make yourself comfortable, preferably on the floor, but if you can't do that, on the bed. The floor is best because getting down on the same level as the cat makes you less threatening.
Spread out the paper and start reading. Take your time. Look at the ads; read the opinion columns. Use the pen/pencil to do the crossword puzzle, Sudoku or any other game. Ignore the cat.
I find that very few cats can resist the big, flappy pages of a newspaper page being turned. Typically, within 15-20 minutes, curiosity overcomes the cat and they will come out to explore. Keep ignoring them. Let them sniff you all over. Let them investigate the edges and dive at the paper, trying to shred it and hide under it at the same time. Tear off a piece (or use an ad flyer), ball it up, and toss it for the cat to bat around.
Let them smack at your pen/pencil. Fence with them a bit. Once they are relaxed enough to play with you or plop down on the paper you can start talking to them, let them sniff your fingers, give them little skritches. Now is the time to break out the snack and share it.
Repeat as often as necessary. The whole point of this is that you're in the room with them, down on their level, not focused on them, and giving them the time and space to get used to your non-threatening presence. I like newspapers because, like I said, few cats can resist the pages, plus if they tear it to shreds I'm out <$1. Magazines or other semi-perishable reading material would also work, but don't bring your precious First Editions-- keep it sacrificial.
Kids can do a variation of this, too: Bring in paper and crayons (markers might get messy) and let them color in the floor near the cat, or have them bring toys that the cat can enjoy, too. The key is calm, quiet, and letting the cat set the pace for getting acquainted.
So there you go. Good luck with your new little friend!
